Good day people! i would like to talk about trust issues and the reason why it may occurs. talking about trust issues, i am pretty sure almost everyone in this world already have experienced it in their lifetime. even though it only happened for once for the rest of life. and my big questions are:

"why do we, humans, need to trust another person?",

"what the actually reasons of trust issue?", 

"where do we should put our trust?",

"when did trust issue started to spoil?",

"who is the person that require for a fidelity?", 

"how to deal with trust issue?".

well, i am not going to talk about it as the scientific case. but i will talk about it as the sentimentally develop. trust issues in briefly way means you dont put any faith or believe at someone because of the fear you might get soon or at some point you are just not ready to trust anyone because of your dull past. and here i am to explain for each point that i always question and also i did a little survey too with my friends at school while we were trying to answer math quests. lol. okay here we go.

1. Why do we, humans, need to trust another person.

people are sociable human being. in our lives, we clearly meet strangers, acquaintances, friends, bestfriend, co-workers, romantic interest, boyfriend/girlfriend and many others. for example in our school life we have friends, in working environment we have co-workers. but in the other hand, we need to played along with them. it will be hard if you have a trust issue with them because they also play the part of important thing. but at some point, it is okay to trust someone. i mean like,  people are not going to betrayed you as long as they don't hate you or you don't annoy them. but, keep in mind, dont trust people too much. 

2. What the actually reasons of trust issue.

the main fact over all is you were being hurt by someone you trust the most. when you are ready to give them everything you are, but at some point they are just disappointed you, you can not get along with them anymore. even though you tried your best to give them another opportunity but it wont be back 100% like in the very first place. and the other reasons are, you have a high expectation from them when they only turning you down in the very end. and you started not to believe in somebody anymore because you have the traumatic issue back then. but sooner or later, you gotta fix it because not everyone are evil. trust me, there are still a dozens of good person who is going to treat you better.

3. Where do we should put our trust. 

A lot of people put their trust to someone they love so much. for example to a couple. it will not work if in their relationship they didn't have a commitment about trust. a fidelity for each other. when you are starting to make a worst scenario in your head, when you too often to check your partner's phone, when you start to keep asking them the same question all the time, when you start to wonder whether you could trust him or not, believe me it all already there. but, keep tell yourself that not everyone is unworth. just try them. try them to put your loyalty againts them. and see what next. because when you trust in, there will be a trust out.

4. When did trust issue start to spoil.

it might happen when you get that same stupid action by someone you mostly trust. see the rumpled paper? it is so alike when it comparing to a rumpled paper. once it got rumpled it wont back to the same way again. that someone you mostly trust made you disappointed. And it is not like for the very first time, but they did it all over and over again. And you started to not giving any attention or any good feedback. they lied not only for once, but they do it for repeatedly. maybe that is when you are so hard to believe in someone again. you are afraid of the consequence you might get after you trust them again. you fear of being hurt again. because for you it is already hard to trust human in the very first place back then. 

5. Who is the person that require for a fidelity.

it's your option. you may put your fidelity over your close friends, family, special friends, and so on. but remember, people are people. they will leaven even they promise to stay. you can see their loyalty through how much times you spend with them. how much he or she worth for a fidelity from their fight in your circle life. how many times they are willing to struggle just because they want to see you happy. how many times they have to be more patience you confront your ego. how much you know them so well. this is your option. choose people wisely. not everyone deserve for a fidelity. but everyone deserve of every kindness. you are not going to give your fidelity over someone who is unworthy it right? 

6. How to deal with trust issues.

fix it. fix every issues you have. heal it. that's the only point. and do not expect too high because you might trap yourself in the end. people with trust issues, will not able to work themselves with everyone else. Try to believe in someone. Even though it is hard but there is no problem for try it. But if you want to start a new relationship, make sure your partner didnt have any traumatic relationship before so you wont get hurt soon. Because your partner still in unstable condition to start a new relationship. That's my advice after all. Because i am not saying the untruth because yes, this is kinda a bit my personal experience. I've done it already. Don't let them in, in the very first place. 

So guys, people with trust issues actually people who trusted so much in the back time. And it is the same like people who is heartless is the person once caring too much.